THE RULES
There are really only two rules, one on nudity and one on swear words (See
below), but there are certain other things that should be upheld by everyone.
Following discussions between the Admins of the site, we have put together the
following guidelines to supplement the rules.
This site is meant to be a light hearted and safe place for ALL of the members
of the group, obviously there are times of sadness and annoyance that people
want to post, and that is quite acceptable, and the support given by TOGs to
the people on here is heart warming to say the least. People have emailed us
and said how invaluable it is to them in their hour of need, long may that
continue.
There is also a great sense of humour here and a great deal of banter back and
fore between those TOGs who know each other, and long may we all enjoy a laugh
here too.
What is not acceptable are cruel posts and those that may offend others. As I
said, there is quite a lot of banter between friends on here, and some gentle
rib taking, which has always been taken the right way, with a couple of rare
exceptions that have been dealt with sensitively. There have been a lot of
posts about sarcasm, and when challenged the posters always use the defence
that “my friends like me being sarcastic and respond the same way”. I agree,
between good friends, sarcasm can be good fun, but it can also hurt, even your
closest friends, so should be very carefully thought about. If people find it
such good sport, then why not confine it to your own Facebook page with your
friends. Posting comments about sarcasm being great, thinking that what others
find hurtful as being funny, and the like, posted on a site of 925 people,
aiming it at no one in particular, could be hurtful to some, and has, of late
become a little tiresome, as is continually posting pictures with swear words.
Continuing to do it on a regular basis, and incurring the displeasure of those
in charge, should also be carefully considered, as one day, the patience may
well run out!
Finally, we should all consider any postings that may offend decency, or are
insensitive, and those that may have graphic content that would offend others.
I include in that graphic images of animal cruelty and the like, which really
don’t fit in with the ethos of this site.
When a post is removed it is because an admin feels that it breaches our rules,
or is not in the spirit of this group, and we would ask you to respect that
decision, you can, of course, ask why the post has been removed. If you do not
then feel able to respect the decision, you may then wish to leave the group.
Members of the group can ask for posts to be removed, and this will be
considered, and if there is a genuine reason, the poster will be asked to
either modify the post or remove it.
The rules are:
1. No nudity on the site whatsoever – that includes pictures with discreetly
placed objects barely covering the essentials, and any suggestive pictures or
cartoons.
2. No swear words – There is no need to use them, you can use some minor swear
words, but put some asterisks in strategic places, we will all know what you
mean. Certain words are obviously not allowed.
Two and a half – please don’t push the boundaries of the rules to see how much
you can get away with, if you have to think about posting it, or you start with
the words “I hope this doesn't offend”, then don’t post it.
We do not want to take the drastic step of banning anyone from this site, so
please respect the rules and wishes of those running this Facebook Group, and
please give the respect that everyone here deserves, but if you feel you cannot
do that, we will respect your decision to leave.
Hellen Bach, Norman Macintosh, Kelly Sigh, Jules Hayward, Penny Hawkesworth
Administrators.